Love is a beautiful coexistence between two humans with two separate hearts that beat as one.
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Reality is love takes time,work, patience, and understanding. Love goes up. Love goes down. On some days love comes easy and on others it makes no sense. Why can’t love just get along with everyone?
In a relationship a person is either a giver (+) or a taker (-). Over the next month or so we’ll cover symbiotic relationships and how they pertain to love.
First, let’s take a look at what a symbiotic relationship is. Dictionary.com defines the psychiatric aspect of symbiosis as follows:
A relationship between two people in which each person is dependent upon and receives reinforcement, whether beneficial or detrimental, from the other
Yes, relationships can have detrimental impact on us. So let’s knock that one out first. I present the competitive relationship.
A competitive relationship (-/-) provides no advantage to either member. Both side compete against themselves in opposition; not with each other as a team. This can be bad. For example, an abusive relation. In a competitive relationship both members fight for attention, resources, or the sheet . Negativity will never breed positivity. So is there a way that two competitive members can coexists? Sure there is. Look at coyotes and wolves. Both hunt the same prey, but one does it at night while the other does it in the day. Neither wolves or coyotes benefit from each other. But, they are able to coexist. By placing partitions and allotments two people can agree on what goes where and what belongs to whom. This is not a healthy environment for love to grow in.
This relationship is often found in young love. Note: I didn’t say young people. When two souls come together and want to bond, there is often some disagreement to what goes where and what needs to go to the curb. This is found in all ages. It would be easy if one side just allowed the other side to have control. However, that’s not how a healthy relationship thrives. There needs to be balance and compromise on both sides.
A competitive relationship has the potential for a great foundation for love. But like a house, once the foundation is poured and set, we don’t call it complete. Nope we have a long way to go before calling the foundation a house. Next week we’ll cover another symbiotic love and find out how important a healthy balance is to compromising towards each other.
Until then, live life, be happy, and find life’s happiness.